I am angry. I am angry at devil who is trying (I am not saying that always successfully) to destroy people. I am not going into every aspect of his trying. But I am talking about women now.
I had a conversation with someone dear to me today. And heard some news about a few women whose lives are falling apart. And not because they have no money or their families are in trouble. Nothing like that. But because of their self-image. Because of their ideas of a "perfect body" which is screwing up their minds and hearts. I am so angry right now I cant even express myself. I heard about a father who is telling her daughter that she has a fat ass. That daughter has anorexia. That daugther has bulimia. And that daughter is almost giving up. She doesnt eat anymore. She doesnt see any solutions. She has been to hospitals. And she has no hope. NOW. I ask you, what kind of a father says these things to his daughter? WHAT KIND? I tell you. A father whose mind is consumed with images of "perfect women". A father who thinks that this "little joke" doesnt harm anyone. But I tell you. As a daugther of a good father I could have never ever bared my dad to say anything like this to me. I am so happy that my family supported me through my eating disorders. And I know my family has God. They had hope and they never gave up on me.
But still. We live in a world filled and packed with images of a so called "perfect body". But I tell you what is perfect. GOD IS PERFECT and He has created each and every one of us perfect in Him. Only in Him and through HIM we are someone special. So NO one has the right to tell a 16 year girl that she has a fat ass.
I was in a hospital in 2006 together with a girl whose parents had totally messed up her young beautiful mind. She was only 14 and she had been struggling with her self-image since she was 8 years old. Now. HEY, ARE YOU LISTENING. She was 8 years old! 8. I couldnt believe her story. Her dad was constantly on her back that she needs to loose weight plaplapla.
Ok, I also know that this world, that we have thousands of people who are overweight and are struggling. BUT BULIMIA and ANOREXIA (and over-eating) ARE NOT SOLUTIONS. This stuff is a result of something deeper. God is a solution. I wouldnt be here today if I wouldnt have gone to HIM and HIM only with my problems. I am still fighting every day with ideas and mind-games but He is right beside me.
So, what hope has a girl in this world when she doesnt know God, when her family is on her back, when her so-called friends tell her that she is fat, when magazines tell her that size 34 is beautiful? WHAT HOPE? We are the hope. God has opened my eyes. I mean, seriously. I have never given up on my dream to help women who are struggling. We have a chance to change things. Because we know the truth.
Men, do not think that flat stomach and skinny legs makes a woman sexy! Sexy has to start inside. If your inside is broken, there is NOTHING sexy about that.
My dear readers, please think about this. If you see someone who is struggling with their self-image, please show them God. Show them the way He sees them. Show them there is another way. There is a way to heal. And over-weight has a solution. And its not starving yourself. It is fixable with proper eating and healthy life-style. I know. Ive been there and done all of that. And Im not a shame of that.
And please please please do not encourage young women, young girls to loose weight unless their weight is totally unhealthy! Baby-fat will go away when these young girls turn into women. I wish I had known that when I was 14, 15. I cannot turn back time. I cannot change the past. But I can change the future by helping others to know the truth.
And your heavenly Father NEVER looks down on YOU! He has made YOU perfect! Sometimes instead of a long and hard solution we try the easy solutions. Life with God is not always easy but it is good. And it has an eternal value. And easy solutions wont last. Starving myself almost made me loose my ability to ever have babies. Starving myself almost killed me. On weight 43 I had nothing on me anymore. Skin and bones.
I have tears in my eyes. Seriously. Beautiful women. Beautiful YOUNG ladies. Please. I beg you. Instead of running away from your inner problems, run to God. Run to your friends who you trust and who wont bring you down. Instead of controlling everyone and everything around you, let God be in control. And find help. And learn how to recieve that help.
I mean, I still have bad thoughts. Almost every day. Like yesterday. I know, I was treated with this gorgeous cherry-cheesecake which was delicious. And I got into battle in my head straight away. It just went on and on and on. "Oh now you ate that and you cant have a lot today", "Oh, that was a calorie-bomb", "You are gonna gain now" and so on and so on. But the truth is, I know that non of it is true. God is truth and the truth will set YOU free!
I could go on forever right now. Because my heart hurts to hear these stories. My heart aches so bad. I know, we live in a world where so much is messed up. And maybe you say, there are much more horrible things. YES there are, I agree with you. But everything starts from somewhere, right? And nothing happens just out of a blue. I know that I havent been through this for nothing. I have a chance to change someone´s life. And it is beautiful. So this is your task now. Think about your heart. Think about what is important. And scream it out. Live your life to the fullest. And enjoy life. Enjoy a piece of cherry-cheesecake. Or whatever cake. But dont take life for granted. Coz He gave it to you. And He LOVES YOU. No matter how messed up you are He takes you back.
So. Stop. Think. Help. Come out of this box! This world is in a box and it has stupid rules. Rules of how we should look like and how not. But you live according to God´s love and you will see changes.
Please, write to me, if something is not understandable. I am really sorry if it touched your weak point, but I wrote about how I feel. I wrote my heart out here.
Love, Kirsi
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