Every time I take a break from Fb its like a time of rest. Also a bit weird not knowing whats going on in people´s lives but that's how it is actually meant to be. You know we are NOT suppose to know what ... (say a name) is having for lunch and what ... (name) is doing today. We shouldn't know these things in normal life. We shouldn't give likes to each other´s pictures like we are some kind of dogs who get points for their good looks and acts. Are you seeing what I'm seeing here? I mean let me paint a picture for you. Every time I go there I FEEL the great NEED to be someone, to be popular, to be likable. I post a picture and I go to check in every 5 seconds if someone has liked it. And if someone has Im like YESS. And if more than one its like Im likable. How real is that? Im so in this world most of the time I don't even notice the real world anymore. Its more important what people think about me than what God thinks about me. I post a status and Im like hey YOU HAVE TO LIKE IT. And if no one does Im erasing it within 5 minutes... Seriously? Do I really need to be likable among people I DON'T even know so well???
I was off for 2 days and went online this morning coz of an important letter. But there were also 6 other letters and tons of other notifications. Oh happy day, more likes... Well, Fb is good to stay in touch with many friends but at the same time its a trap from where a get.out is hard. It just makes me sad seeing myself getting so involved, so into it... I think I have to start taking "days off" more often just because I need to see the bigger picture. I do not need to be popular, likable, touchable, oh hey LOOK at me-me-me. Not like that. I want my friends to like me in real life, I want them to know me in real life. But in order to do that We all need to realize that something is wrong. And something is definitely wrong with Fb. It just doesn't seem right anymore...
But back to happy notes. Pancake-time. This week has been just strange. I wake up each morning to go to work and then it comes out there is non coz of H´s cold. Anyway... Like I said, I think its time for breakfast. ;)
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sa ju tead, et oled ilus ja tore hoolimata sellest kui palju like´e saad. ja ma juba üsna pikka aega mõtlen, et kunagi tahaks sinuga kohtuda (üle oi kui pika aja) ja jutustada. ilmselt natuke veider mõte ühelt üsna võõralt inimeselt, aga mis siis. äkki kunagi õnnestub :)
Just in order to sum up what you just portrayed - Facebook is a marketplace of (and for) human beings where we can market ourselves and judge over other people´s "value". This, of course is a very general viewpoint and there is a number of things that the network is good for (maintaining international contacts, sharing or marketing your music, art, literature etc). Yet, the aspect that should be taken into consideration when talking about it is that our constant need for being "social", "beautiful" and "as good as the next man (woman)", is the source of creating the feelings of hidden enquality among a lot of people (the friends in our friendlists) that are able to view the profiles and status updates. Most post updates about: their constant travels, fabolous relationships and family time, food, great number of friends etc...A lot of people can´t afford it (not just travels but food too), a lot of people are born into situations where they just simply do not have anything like that to present, a lot of us are generally more reserved and have difficulties with presenting themselves. Yet, they do see that the people that have the natural skills to do so and obviously, do so too, get more "likes" and people simply seem to like them more. So with all that being said, we ourselves are in control of creating the standard for beauty, the standard for intelligence, the standard for what being "open" really means. I´m not trying to forbid anybody to use Facebook, no...I just found your approach very actual at these times and via being a user myself (at some point, somewhat addicted...), I´ve witnessed way too much vanity and indiscretion on it. Sometimes, from people that in real life preach for the very opposite values...
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